Ok this has absolutely nothing to do with sports....unless you think of sex as a sport?????  lol  Well maybe so we have a new sport to discuss....Let's think about this...

Sex...you sweat, burn calories, some put on a show, exert energy, move muscles, some people get paid for it, some do it for recreation, lots of emotion---can make you happy or sad, can excite you or depress you....lots of similarities to sports....so then great...we can talk about it on my site!!!

I have just got to throw this out for conversation.  Why do guys have such a fixation with the 3some?  Now don't deny it…if you are a guy reading this blog…you know you have that fantasy if you haven't already done it.  I mean girls aren't running around wanting to have sex with 2 guys….but every guy wants to do it with 2 girls…at least every guy I've ever known in my life and every guy I've ever dated…it was one of the problems in my own relationship for years..and I won't believe that YOU are any different.  lol  I am not saying that guys are bad for thinking about it...It's a very normal "guy" thought and this blog is not meant to pass any judgement at all so please don't take it that way. I am just curious as the the mind of the man regarding the three-some and I want to share the mind of most women regarding the same act.

So what is it?  Tell me what is it that makes the 3-some so appealing?  Ok ok dumb dumb question huh???   What wouldn't be appealing for a man…2 women…1 man…all the attention on him…caressing, sucking, loving, touching at all ends….and the women get to share that great big…..  right!!  And you think that's enough for the 2 of them?  Of course it is….right.

So my next question…which is the question I think is the most important and the one I think any guy in a regular relationship with a normal sexually thinking female needs to focus on. 

Why do you want your girlfriend/wife ….the woman you love the most in this world, the woman you may want to spend the rest of your life with….to have sex with another woman for you or with you?  

Here's the problem that you run into.   As cool as your girl wants to seem to you, and fun as she wants to be….no normal sexual woman who loves her man wants to see him have sex or mess with another girl…..she may say it's ok, but  SHE DOESN'T MEAN IT SO YOU ARE BETTER OFF NOT BRINGING IT UP!!!  Unless your girl is already that way…unless she already thinks in terms of three-somes and she brings it up…you may want to just hold off on the idea of it because it will 9 times out of 10 result in a bad ending.   After the "event" she will wonder why you wanted to do it. Why wasn't she "enough" for you?  Do you want to do it again and again?  (if you do, I encourage you to NOT admit it).  Did you like it better than her?  Then everytime she has sex with you again, she will wonder if you are thinking about the other girl…

She will watch you like a hawk…you better act like you are not as excited as you really are because she is watching your reactions.  The bottom line is that most of the time, if you are trying to have a three-some with your girl and another woman, you will cause your girl to suffer some sort of insecurity.  And if she has NEVER done it before, and this is your first time….PROCEED WITH SEVERE CAUTION...just because she gives you the green light...be careful...you know how girls are...we may say ok,but really not MEAN it.a three-some with your girl could very well turn disasterous…sooner or .......later for several reasons, but most of all because women are jealous creatures by nature and it is difficult to watch the man you love have sex with another woman if you are not a woman "wired" with that way of thinking in the first place.  The thought of it may seem ok, but the actual act of if could be relationship-ending...maybe not right away, but eventually it could cause your girl to have "issues" that you may not even know about if she doesn't express it and tries to act cool about it.

I understand that to YOU, it is just sex.  Meaningless sex and your girl is the most important person to you….the other one means nothing…but most girls are not wired that way.  Sex means so much more.

So my words of caution if you insist of having a three-some with your girl who has never done it before:

1.  Try to get her to bring it up.  If you can't and you bring it up, do it in a way that is non-threatening or have one of your friends be talking about it with his girl and just join the conversation.  Even if she brings it up, still proceed with caution and make sure you follow all the rules below!!!

2.  When you finally start doing it, don't be all into the other girl…focus most of your energy on your girl and make sure she feels like she is the STAR of the show.

3.  Discuss whether or not you are going to actually have intercourse with the other girl BEFORE you get into the situation.  That is relationship-ending if you don't talk about what you are going to do before it happens.  A three-some can be very awkward and if you don't have a plan it may not work out well at all!

4. After it is over, don't bring it up again…even if your girl is talking about it acting like she loved every minute, Don't fall for that.  Just say it was cool…or thanks for making my fantasy come true and leave it at that.  REMEMVER WOMEN ARE JEALOUS OF OTHER WOMEN!!   So no matter how cool your girl is, (unless she is bi-sexual or very advanced in the sport of the three-some), she doesn't want to think you want to do it all the time.

5.  Don't ask for another three-some…If she wants to do it your girl will bring it up…if you bring it up, she will think that is all you think about....and then even if she brings it up, don't act super excited about it...just say something like, ok cool whenever you're ready you just let me know.

6.  The next time after you have sex with her after the three-some, make it super romantic and make sure you put it on her with lots of love and caressing....and make sure she knows you love her body.

7.  Best advice…if you want to avoid the possibility of deep problems, or unless your girl really does want to do it herself, don't ask her to do it….don't do it…either keep it a fantasy or if it is something you must do before you die…. figure out a way to do it on your own…if she wants to surprise you with it or wants to do it for you then let her, but again follow the rules above!

BUT if you have a real sexually open girl from the beginning….none of this applies!!!

So share your thoughts here with me....let me know what makes this work or not for you, in your relationship??? Don't tell me that you don't want to do it or never had that fantasy....I won't believe that one!  Just share your thoughts, especially if you have done it...how did it turn out?  and if you haven't done it, why do you want to or do you think your girl would be open?